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Social Transition

Social transition is the process by which transgender people publicly affirm their gender identity.

This commonly involves changing your names and pronouns, as well as presentation (including clothing and other external gender cues, like voice and mannerisms).

Socially transitioning can be a fairly daunting and complicated process for trans people. Some choose to socially transition shortly after they come out, while others who plan to go on hormone replacement therapy may choose to wait until they look more masculine or feminine. That usually eases the process, especially when meeting new people who may automatically read a trans person as the gender they present as.

On pronouns: Many non-native English speakers in Singapore – even those fluent in English – have problems with gendered pronouns, since languages like Chinese, Malay, and Tagalog use gender-neutral pronouns in speech.

Some may constantly use the wrong pronouns even when referring to cis people. They may thus find it difficult to remember to use the right pronouns for you, even if they accept your gender identity.

One upside to this is that Singaporeans are used to people who get pronouns wrong; being misgendered doesn’t necessarily mean you might be outed as trans.

If you know someone like this, and know that they do accept you, it can help to focus on that acceptance and other ways they affirm you as your gender, and brush off any wrong pronouns the same way you would when they misgender cis people.

Socially transitioning in life

Socially transitioning in your day-to-day can mean more than just changing your name and pronouns. You may wish to also change your gender presentation and your online presence, and these will ultimately have widespread ramifications.

Changing your presentation in person

There are several ways you can change your gender presentation as a trans person. These include aesthetic changes like facial hair removal or hairdressing services.


It’s important to have a view of what you might want. If you need or want to be fluid in your presentation (to pass as your birth gender in certain situations), you can opt to have shorter hair, or a hairstyle that can at times pass as your birth gender.

A moodboard helps here. Here’s an example for short androgynous hair by a transfeminine person; having a moodboard means that you can communicate exactly what kind of hair you want and what you are comfortable with.

Hair for transmasculine people

Hair for transfeminine people

Reach out to us at if you’re looking for trans-friendly hairdressers. If you or your business welcomes trans clients, do let us know and we’ll add you into our private directory.

Facial hair removal

Trans women and transfeminine people often seek facial hair removal, and if you’re one of them, you can go to an affirming aesthetician for hair removal.

Though these services are available through the public health system, they are usually not eligible for subsidy and cost around $450 per session; public providers also tend to be inexperienced with treating trans patients.

Aestheticians in Singapore are able to provide electrolysis, IPL (intense pulsed light) and SHR (super hair removal) services.

ElectrolysisPermanentElectrolysis is the only approved method of permanent hair removal. A trained electrologist inserts a thin wire into the hair follicle under the surface of the skin, and an electric current destroys the hair root. This damage prevents hair from growing and causes existing hair to fall out.

You will have to permanently remove hair before certain gender-affirming surgeries such as vaginoplasty.
IPL (intense pulsed light)Temporary (long-term)IPL stands for Intense Pulsed Light, a procedure where hair removal devices apply pulses of light to the hair root, forcing it to go into its resting phase. The hair you have then falls out, and gradually your body grows less hair in that area.

IPL is a temporary hair removal method that is fairly long term.
SHR (super hair removal)Temporary, but possibly permanentSHR – or super hair removal – uses low-intensity pulses of light to inhibit hair growth. Some treatments include in-built cooling systems for comfort.

Aestheticians usually do not provide for laser hair removal as they require additional licensing.

For a trans-friendly provider, you can contact Alex and team at HairFreeSG.

If you are an aesthetician that welcomes trans clients and wish to be added on our list, let us know by reaching out to us.

Binding safely

Singapore is ridiculously hot and humid, and thus binding can seem like a daunting yet necessary task that people with breasts need to get through.

Binding should not hurt, cut your skin, or prevent you from breathing. Do not buy a binder that is one size too small in the hopes that it will flatten your chest – binders are already designed to be very tight when they fit properly, and getting one that’s too small will cause severe discomfort and injury.

As a rule of thumb, do not spend more than 8 hours binding. Let your body get used to the binder slowly – spend two hours first, then four, then six – and remember to take breaks. Some people might be able to handle wearing a binder for very long, while others can’t make it to 8 hours – it is highly dependent on your body!

Naturally, don’t wear a binder while doing strenous activity, or doing anything that requires a lot of lung effort as you’re basically compressing your lungs. Do not wear them while choir singing, playing a wind instrument, or when sick with a respiratory illness; you’ll get out of breath and it will be difficult to catch your breath.

Transbefrienders run a binder redistribution project – click here if you need a binder.

Going to the washroom

At some point in your transition you may have to switch the public restrooms you use. Singapore presently does not have any specific laws about sex-specific usage of public restrooms, but you may have to deal with other people’s reactions.

The safest option for most – especially if you are perceived as androgynous or ambiguous, or if you are genderfluid – is a unisex or handicapped stall. Some public buildings in Singapore have handicapped stalls inside the two gendered restrooms, so you may have to take note of that.

As a general rule, you are much more likely to be stared at or confronted in the ladies, but seriously hurt in the gents if people figure out that you are trans and respond badly.

Whichever toilet you choose, act like you belong there and people will assume you do. After all, you’re there for a fairly simple and normal objective – to relieve yourself – and there’s no need to feel guilt or fear over not belonging there. Go in, use the the toilet, wash your hands, and leave. You’re less likely to be seen as suspicious if you look like you belong there, as opposed to if you’re visibly nervous and scared.

Remember that even with a small trans community, Singapore is a still very diverse place when it comes to gender presentation. Masculine/butch cis women still use the ladies, and feminine-looking cis men still use the gents! You might just look like someone who is gender non-confirming, and that is relatively acceptable in society today.

Some more tips if you don’t feel safe or confident:

Coming out and transitioning online

The hard part about changing your name is telling everyone about it. Depending on how you feel about being known as your previous name, how many friends you’d like to tell, or how you want people to know, you may choose to deal with this in different ways.

If your current name is something that doesn’t remotely resemble the name given to you at birth, it might be good to build new social media accounts and networks. This might not work if you depend on them for work, or for communicating with family members.

You do not need to be on HRT or even legally change your name before socially transitioning; a change of name is just that, a change! You can try out new identities amongst friends or online spaces that are more accepting.

Dealing with pre-transition photos on social media networks

If you wish to keep your transition private, it would be helpful for you to delete all instances of pre-transition photos on social media networks. If you would like to store them, a good place would be offline on a hard disk or thumb drive or on your phone, as long as you have appropriate privacy safeguards.

This is to largely prevent people from outing you or knowing outside your control. It gets easy to find previous photos of yourself, especially if your younger self or if your relatives were more loose with their social media privacy. You should do the above before you come out in public.

Most social media instances will have a function to download the information you have put up and to delete them from servers.

Social media safety

At some point in your social transition, you will have to try and figure out who you’re comfortable with coming out to.

We generally encourage trans folk to connect with the people closest to them, but if there are some people who make you feel unsafe, or if you are not ready to come out to some people, you can opt to block or disconnect from them.

Socially transitioning at work

Depending on where you’re at in your career, you may have to deal with many different things when you socially transition.

Transitioning early will have obvious benefits of enabling a professional network and a career without the messiness of transition. But it may also mean some difficulty in obtaining a job, especially if you are not able to legally change your gender.

Take a look at our Career Planning page for more details.

Socially transitioning in school

School systems generally vary in how they accept trans and queer students, and some school systems may allow you to socially transition without changing your name.

MOE policy has generally been one of not encouraging transition or visible queerness, especially in secondary schools and junior colleges.

Still, some junior colleges may be more welcoming (culturally) than others, with people accepting your chosen name and pronouns.

Universities and polytechnics are generally more accepting spaces, and the Inter-University LGBT Network is a good space to start out if you need college-specific information about socially transitioning.

Disclaimer: Information on this site is for general information only. It does not constitute legal or medical advice and is not a substitute for obtaining advice from a qualified professional. We do not represent or warrant that this information is suitable, reliable, complete, accurate or up-to-date.